Monday, February 8, 2016

Interview part 3

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Top 5 reasons why I choose to stay in hotels while traveling

I am grateful to  anyone who offers to open their home to me while I am on the road. The opportunity to eat a home cooked meal almost makes me jump at the chance. Note food will always be at the top of  "what makes Sly happy list". Yet there is a risk that is taken when I accept such an offer. The following are a few examples I have had the misfortune to experience first hand.

1. "Don't mind me, Go back to sleep I am just sucking your cock." Really, at 3am I woke to a person under my sheets.  I politely removed his mouth from my cock. Packed and checked into a hotel.  He still ask me whenever I  visit San Diego if I wish to stay in his spare bedroom

2. Attempts at "pimping me out". The host tells his friends that I am visiting and decides to have a sex party. First of all, I have nothing against a good romp session. What I take issue with is being taken out of the decision making part. It is important for me to know exactly who you are inviting. They very well may be one of my stalkers. Do you think that person is going to share that there is a restraining order placed on him. This happens far too often and my response is always the same. Invite someone in my name without my consent and just as the guest start to arrive I will depart. Once more checking into a hotel. 

3. "I promise you will not even know I am here" famous last words. As a guest, It is my responsibility to share with a potential host what my basic needs are in order for me to be able to accept their offer. No food in this case is not the most important. My ability to work on my computer uninterrupted. Unlike most people, I can work anywhere that I am able to access my WiFi. That means long hours on the computer. Yes even up to but not limited to 11 hours. A host who demands my attention and is put off when I share that I am still working is not a good fit for either of us. 

4. Changing agreed upon expectations upon arrival. I will always take you at your word. Prior to staying with a host for the first time I try to be clear as to what their expectations are and share mine. If we both find each others concerns agreeable? Then upon my stay they decide to make adjustments without my consent. One example which has happened often enough, Which range from overt to direct demands for sex. I do not care how hot you might think you are. The fact that we did not agree upon this in the beginning, reeks of a hidden agenda. A person gets no brownie points for being deceptive. If you are sexually attracted to me and want to fuck? There is a place for that on my home page under contacts. I suggest you use it. Promise to be more receptive.

5. Poor hygiene, I do understand when a person just does not feel like washing clothes or cleaning their house/apartment. Please do not wait for me to arrive and then ask me to help you. Really, as a guest it is my responsibility to leave as small of a footprint as possible. Meaning that I clean up after myself. Do not ask me to clean up after you. It is likely I will volunteer to help anyway. But give me the chance to do so and not expect me to be your house keeper. 

Friday, December 18, 2015

Part two interview

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Monday, December 14, 2015

A familiar road of recovering from a challenging period begins again...

Yesterday marked the end of me being held hostage in my hotel. The not so glamorous price one can pay for being in the entertainment industry. I had to remain all but silent on all social media sites as part of the solution to ending a creative stalkers fixation on me.

It is extremely

rare for me to run into someone who is determined to circumvent my efforts not to respond to any of his inquiries and demands. Creating false profiles with new numbers posing as someone interested in working with me or hiring me for a event.

Arriving at my hotel room, forcing me to change yet again to an alternate location.  No longer able to use the social media sites as a place I could discuss any subject. I could not allow him to gain access to me. To do so would only extend the siege.

Last night he was finally detained. I can only hope it is long enough for me to return safely to the USA,

I ask for your patience as I begin the slow process of reconnecting with friends, business associates and those who have been so kind to have invited me into part of their lives by following my journeys in the entertainment industry. It is good to have a voice again.

Tuesday, December 1, 2015

The cost....

A creative one this stalker is...he changes numbers to reach me gaining information at to my location posing as a client. Here we go again.

Every morning when I wake, an hour is spent deleting pictures and messages sent to my public number posted on all my social media sites. This will be the last I write about this and ask that no one comments on this posting. It only adds fuel the stalker.

Every morning when I wake, an hour is spent deleting pictures and messages sent to my public number posted on all my social media sites. This will be the last I write about this and ask that no one comments on this posting. It only adds fuel the stalker.

I know what must be done and am taking the steps needed to ensure my safety in so much as humanly possible. It is unfortunate that I have been though this a few times before. He will eventually tire of me and move to someone else.

That and I depart for Brussels this Saturday.

Thursday, November 19, 2015

Acceptance and humility...key tools used on the road to living a balanced life under the spottlight

I have to post the following message from time to time. I will apologize in advance to friends and fans who have been with me for some time now. You have read the likes of the following message before.

I am eternally grateful to anyone who takes the time to write me. One of the toughest pills to swallow has been my coming to terms with my own limitations. When I first got into the Industry, I made it a point to respond to every message. I soon came to be spending most of my waking days online. This for me is not living and I am unable to keep my social media sites relevant.

There is a price that I pay for the success. It was a life lesson in acceptance and humility. The first (acceptance) was a bitter pill to swallow. Ego was the motivation behind my need to spend most waking days responding to messages. It was important that you did not think I was someone who did not care. Even at the expense of neglecting family friends and my own serenity. Once I was able to identify my character defect. I returned to a solution based perspective. Balance, in all things is the key for me. It is what my life journey is about.

Humility, was just as tricky. There is no one in this world that I put on a pedestal before me. It is not something that I covet for myself. It is a trap, One that I would not want to fall into. Perfection is the only way to survive if you chose this path. I god I am far from. If you allow someone to place you above them they will turn on you when they see your humanity/flaws.

My parents where the last two deities that I toppled. When that happened they became more than just my mother and farther. They became my friends perfect in their imperfections.

Do not ask me to give up living life and experiencing all that it has to offer. The answer will always be no. I cannot respond to 99% of the messages. The ratio is 1 to 20000. Do the math. It is an impossibility. Learning to filter the hate messages that came with people who believed I was being rude by not responding to them was necessary yet hurt all the same.

 Many will not read this. It is an unfortunate fact. I have been in the entertainment industry for only 6 years. I have made many rookie mistakes. I had no mentors. There was no how to manual. In hind site, I believe this was a good thing. I came to being in my own unique way.

If anyone ever wants to get to know the real me? All you have to do is visit any of my social media site especially the blogs. I am an open book and like my parents. I am perfect in my imperfections.

Much love to family and friends for being patient with me as I continue to grow up and find my own unique way of living in this environment we call the entertainment industry.

Andrew Adam Caldwell​ took the first picture

Thursday, October 15, 2015

"Bless your heart" A very southern phrase with a double meaning.

The ability to chose when to take the bate or pass on potential conflicts is one of the best gifts I have earned through the passage of time.
Never will I waist time or energy on a subject/person whom I have deemed not worth the investment.
In short when receiving obnoxious messages, I will always opt for the non response. And in the old southern tradition simply thinking "bless your heart".  Which can also mean fuck you, depending on how it is worded.

Andrew Adam Caldwell​  took this picture

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