I am always flattered by the people who take time out of thier lives to send me mean spirited messages.

I have never bothered keeping count of the times I have heard statements such as. "you are too old for this business" or " Are you not ashamed to be in the porn industry...get a real job."

If I bother to respond it is usually with a "thank you followed by bless your heart". Telling on themselves is what they are doing. Likely without knowing it.  I will break it down to those who might not get where I am coming from and why I am always flattered when receiving such messages.

I do not know these people from a can of paint. Yet for me to elicit such emotions from a total stranger tells me all that I need to know. If they did not care they would never bother writing. I promise you, I do not expend energy on those who mean nothing to me. The phrase "thou protest too much" comes to mind.

Once while visiting San Francisco I was told "You need to take your coon ass back to Seattle.". After i calmed down enough from laughter, I did thank him to taking the time to write me. Fear is the driving force behind this type of emotion. The proper response should always be sympathy.  Along with gratitude, for not living in a world based in fear and intolerance.

Bless their Hearts, indeed.

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